Successful men looking for a wife care about more than just photos of you on holiday with your friends having cocktails, that you like travelling (who does not) or that time you went skydiving.
It may not surprise you to know that he is first looking for is loyalty in your profile.
This article is about how you catch the eye of your future husband – or at least get more of the attention that you want.
My clients tell me that one of the hardest things when they go online is the number of messages they get from men and how few messages they get from the right type of man. What I have found is that they do not know what the “right type of man” is looking for in profile photos. It is definitely not glamorous photos of you on holiday or out for cocktails with friends.
Most of my clients are looking for a good and successful man who is looking for a long term partner.
These men have been successful in other areas of their lives they apply the same principles to dating which again sets them slightly apart.
In this post we explore what he is looking for overall and, frankly, I have not seen anywhere else on the internet.
Maybe because all the other posts are written by ladies and if they are written by men, they tend to be those who are only successful in the dating space?
Regardless, no one has told you this and you need to know.
What Men Want the Most
What men mean by loyalty may surprise you.
When you google what men want and pick out the articles actually written by men, loyalty and trust comes up every time.
Forbes: Top 10 Traits Men Want In A Wife
Cosmopolitan: 10 Things Guys Actually Want in a Wife
The Good Men Project: The Top 12 Qualities Men Want in a Woman
The Spruce: What Men Want From Their Wives
When I ask my clients what they think men mean when they say that they want someone loyal, the answers are typically either “a woman who won’t cheat on them,” to “a woman who is obedient.”
These are both incorrect.
Men are looking for a strong feeling of support or allegiance.
The Mistake Most Women Make
Have you ever had the experience of telling a girlfriend that they looked nice with a new outfit when in fact you thought quite the opposite?
Would it surprise you that a man would almost never do that to another man?
Because for a man that would be regarded as dishonest. Not just sparing his feelings.
Men take this to the extreme. If a man hears that another man has been hiding something from him, it is regarded as a lie and the trust is damaged. Even if the man was hiding it to preserve his friend’s feelings or for the perceived greater good.
Because for a man, being anything but upfront and honest is the difference between life and death.
In sports, in work, in war, if you can not trust your team mate to be completely upfront and honest then your team is weaker.
Without wanting to bore you, since ancient times the idea of depending on the man by your side has been a longstanding military tactic for millennia, earliest recorded of these were from Ancient Greece in the Hoplite Phalanx formation.
It comes down to the idea that you are depending on the man by your side for protection and trust. It’s what you need for your survival.
For a man, the difference between being 100% brutally honest and sparing his feelings is the difference between life and death.
What Does It Feel Like for the Man?
Have you ever had that experience of seeing a great dress online, buy it and then when it arrives, it looks completely different?
Daily Mail Online:
If the companies had been accurate about their garments, then the clients could make their own decision about whether or not they wanted to buy it. Some people might actually want these dresses.
In the end, there was a backlash because it felt like the companies selling the dresses were being dishonest.
Every man who has been online for long enough has had this experience when arrange to meet a lady only to find that she is completely different in real life.
I know that you want to put your best side forward. I know that you want to look as great yet approachable, mysterious yet somehow open and interesting all at the same time. I get it.
The only thing to make sure is that the profile photos match what you look like when you go for a Sunday brunch with your friends.
Make sure your profile photos match what you look like when you go for a nice Sunday Brunch with your friends.
Successful Men Look for Inconsistencies in Your Profile
This is particularly important for successful men. Successful men often say that they are looking for a team mate, a partner through life who they know has their back.
In a man’s World it means consistency and reality matches expectations that the lady has set.
What should you do now?
Find at least one (ideally three) male friend(s) who you think will be completely upfront and honest. It’s hard to find, but someone ideally who is not afraid of your opinion or worried about how you may feel. Ask him if the photos on your profile are how you normally come across and brace yourself.
Whatever he says take note, it is valuable insights.
If you want my opinion, just drop me a line, happy to help. My e-mail address is at the bottom of the page.
The next article in this mini series will look at what we look for at the next stage. Once your photos have been screened, he will then look at the text. Let’s look at what he will be looking for there.
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